Monday, November 25, 2002

Girlism?

Halley Suitt wrote the following at Blog Sisters in response to the question, "Whatever happened to feminism":

    "There is no more feminism," I explain. Game Over. But it took me a day or two to name the new game. It's "girlism" -- women want to be sexy girls and use all the tricks girls use. Crying, flirting, begging, winking, stomping their feet when they don't get their way, general trotting around showing off their long legs and whatever else they decide to show off thereby distracting and derailing men.

    It's about power -- the girl power we've always had, but forgot about, combined with all the stuff we've learned in the workplace. Needless to say, if you're a man and you call us on it, we deny it. The new double double standard. We learned how to stop playing fair

In my computer technology field, which is one of the most heavily male-dominated professions, I have never once seen a woman use flirting, begging, winking, stomping their feet, showing off their long legs, dressing sexy, or anything of this nature to get their way. If anything, women are less likely to display emotion on the job in my field than the men. Why? Because of statements such as these, saying that there is a double double standard and that women are using 'girly' ways to succeed.

Example: Once I was so frustrated at continually being undercut by a male co-worker that I shed tears. Another of my co-workers, a woman, said that I needed to stop crying, because I was falling into the 'women cry, men swear' stereotype. I have never cried at work since. However, I have learned to pound the desk in anger, and swear a lot. Are these better? Well, at least they aren't stereotypical.

Girlism. A label to discount women's human experience and expression.

When women cry, they're resorting to 'girlism', but when men cry, they're being sensitive. Men can be hurt and receive understanding and compassion, but when women are hurt, they're being overly emotional. Is that it works now? Women dress for sex, but men dress for success. And when women get angry, they're being 'girly', but when men get angry, they're being assertive.

(also posted at Burningbird)




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